I didn’t always have a middle name. I’ve had many names that didn’t feel like me and one day I found a name that encompassed everything I am as a human being and everything I strive to be on daily basis.
“See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always non acceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” - Eckhart Tolle
Contentment taught me how to be here in this moment and really appreciate everything I had and didn’t have. You see my dissatisfaction with life was causing me suffering because I wanted things to be a different, better, or people to be different. I was struggling to accept and meet life where I was.
In creating sustainable happiness and contentment, we have to look inside ourselves to see what is getting in the way of creating more of those two things.
Making peace with ourselves, starts every minute of every day. We are not perfect beings, we make mistakes and we don’t always love ourselves as we should. Every day we can offer a tiny bit of peace and loving-kindness to ourselves. That peace and loving-kindness is transformative and it can heal the wounds inside of us that we have created.
How is it that we've come to expect perfection in our lives, in an imperfect world? How is it that we have come to believe we can control everyone and everything? It's kind of silly when you think of it, trying to control what we have no power or will over. Or being disappointed when life does not manifest in the way we imagine it will. What can we do to let go of our need to perfect, expect and control?